Equipping Kids with Stress Handling Tools for a Brighter Future

As a parent, it’s our job to see that our kids are equipped with all the necessary tools that they might need for a brighter future. For example, we need to make sure that our kids are educated. It helps if our kids have a dream so that we can help them and support them to pursue their dreams. We need to make sure that we train them with social etiquettes so that they have a pleasant personality.

However, everywhere in this world – school, college, work, relationships, home – they will face a certain degree of stress no matter what. Dealing with stress is the most important issue a human being faces and this is the most neglected area in the childhood.

To start with, here’s what I can try…

Teach my child to meditate – helps to revitalize the brain and get centered. Initially, when we sit for meditation we have lots of thoughts and it is very hard to be still. It’s easier to keep moving and thinking because then we are not with ourselves. We are terrified of being with ourselves. But eventually we learn that it’s nice to just enjoy our own company. Meditation is the only thing that can teach my kids to enjoy their own company. Hence, they are never lonely and have an attitude of “everything is all right”.

Give my child gift of spirituality – Feeling God’s love is the only thing that will not let us feel insecure and unloved. Hence, it’s important to teach kids how to pray. God is the supreme source of help, guidance and love.

Yoga/Exercise – Every kind of exercise and/or Yoga is not only good for health but is always a stress reliever. So, it helps if we can get kids in the habit of some kind of exercise every day just like brushing and saying prayers.

Controlling temper and emotions – go to a quiet place and just cry or be angry as much as you want. Once you feel you have calmed down, come back to the world. This can be a priceless habit! It’s important to learn that it’s not all right to explode like a bomb just because you are angry or emotional. Share your emotions and anger but in a civilized way.

All this is easier said than done, hence we need to keep trying …

3 Year old Preschool Curriculum for my son

My son is being home schooled right now. He is three and a half years old and his curriculum includes the following.

Reading Books: I love Sonlight P3/P4 curriculum as we are reading quality books and also, we do some of the suggested optional activities for each book in the reading list. We read Nursery Rhymes once a week. We participate in a book club once a week.

Activity Books: I have him working on 5-6 types of activity books at a time. I let my son do a page from each in a day. I like Kumon and BrainQuest Activity books. I have following types of activity books that he has been working on: dot-to-dot, mazes, tracing, cutting, folding, coloring, thinking skills, sticker books, and so on. We do these 3 days a week.

Reading Lesson: We are working with “Teach Your Child to Read in 100 Easy Lessons“. Teaching my son to read has been a cake-walk because of this book so far. The best part is that he is enjoying it thoroughly. Continue reading 3 Year old Preschool Curriculum for my son

Activity list for my 3 Year old

Here are few activities that are favorites of my 3 year old. Here’s the list of children activities he did when he was younger. I hope this is helpful. Please feel free to recommend more types of activities that I can do with my son.

  • Reading Books

    This is one of the favorite activities. There is a glitter in my son’s eyes as soon as I suggest that I will read to him. We still get lot of books from the library.

  • Household Chores

    I let my son help me with following household chores:
    putting clothes in washing machine,
    taking out clothes from dryer,
    transferring cutlery from dishwasher to the cutlery drawer,
    arranging table mats and cutlery for everyone on the table before meals,
    cooking where fire is not involved such as salads, cake batter and so on,
    raking leaves in the fall and helping his father in yard work.

  • Activity Books

    I have him working on 5-6 types of activity books at a time. I let my son do a page from each in a day. I like Kumon and BrainQuest Activity books. I have following types of activity books that he has been working on: dot-to-dot, mazes, tracing, cutting, coloring, tracing uppercase, thinking skills, sticker books, big fat comprehensive activity books and so on.

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Recommended Children’s Books for 3 Year olds

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Meditation is a must for a child

When I was pregnant, my sister-in-law, Geetika, gave me the best advice. She told me that meditate when your child is awake and he will eventually meditate as well. I listened to her and every day I meditate with my son. It seems like a challenge to meditate with him but eventually meditation gets deeper and it is possible to not be bothered or distracted by external noises. Meditation helps me become a calmer and a balanced mother (most days!). This translates into a calmer and balanced child and a home. Also, every child loves to copy its parents. So, if a child watches us meditate, it will eventually copy us and hopefully, do even better than us.

As Shri Mataji explained to us, each child is born with a connection to the Divine power of love fully established. Each child is born innocent and pure. It is us, the parents who have problems on a subtle level and without being aware of them, we pass them on to our kids. The kids are like a clean white cloth and they absorb our stresses easily and the best way we can free them of these stresses is by creating a time for meditation every morning and evening, both for us and our kids.

My son and I sit for meditation (I follow Sahaja Yoga Meditation) in the morning and every evening we practice a technique known as foot-soaking while we meditate. For foot-soaking we put a teaspoon of kitchen salt into a little tub of lukewarm water (enough to soak the feet just above the ankle). I don’t know for certain if my son meditates or not, or whether he can feel any difference after doing it or not. I do know that he enjoys meditation time and that after meditation he is calmer and less hyper and a better listener. After meditation, there is more love and tranquility in our house. Therefore, it is very important for us to meditate. Meditation is one device that we can give to our child that will help him to become a better person and a device that will help him to overcome the stresses and obstacles in life. A natural and innate spirituality is the best gift we can give to our progeny. Without spirituality it’s like raising a kid without any nourishment for his heart and soul.